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Note to Self



Dear Karin,

                Don’t be afraid. You don’t need to hang onto all that bullshit. You don’t need to control the situation. I know it seems impossible, but you can and will let go and trust. And when you do that, it will be okay. I know you’re scared. You’d be foolish not to be scared. But remember the greatest changes happen when you do things despite your fear. You know this is right already. You don’t have to see how things will work out. You don’t have to figure it out. Just let go of all the shit that’s been weighing you down. You honestly won’t dissolve or float off into space or become tragically homeless and insane. You can just let it all go.

                I know you don’t believe in yourself, but I believe in you. Justin will be fine. Tara and Dylan will be fine. You will be fine. Know that you are loved and, more importantly, know that your capacity to love unconditionally is boundless.

Choose love. Choose surrender. Choose to bless.

            I love you.

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